Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Love Vs. Need

"I met Joyce at the park a couple of hours ago and she was crying. I was hesitant at first to approach her but I know that there is a reason why I was there. She told me that she thinks her boyfriend is taking her for granted. She is confused as to what she feels."

Dear Joyce,

When one loves a person, he needs his partner. But when hee needs the person, it doesn't necessarily means that you love them. There is actually a thin line differentiating this two. You may love without needing, whereas you may need without loving. So what am I getting into? It doesn't matter if you love or you are loved, what is important is that in loving, you are needed. 

But if you feel that the other person is taking advantage of the situation wherein all you feel is that you are losing, I suggest that you think things over or simply talk to him. I am not in the position to tell you what to do as I don't exactly know the real score between you two. One advice I can give you is to love yourself first. If you love or value yourself, you earn respect from others. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you don't, what you may try is to give yourself enough time. Call it your "me-time". I do it when am troubled. I do it to pamper myself. And yes, it helped me see things and made me realize what I was missing. From there, you'd be able to pick up where you left and be stronger person.

Needing without loving is true. Loving without needing is true as well. But you can love and need at the same time. Hope this helps.